The Pickup Artist …

So lets pretend you are in a bar.  Is there a bar you go to frequently?  O.K., picture that one.  And you are waiting for a friend.  She texts you and tells you that she is stuck in traffic but still coming.  While you are waiting, a guy starts to notice you. You ignore but are aware that you are being noticed.  After a while he comes up to you and says “Hello my name is Claude”.  You say nothing and just look at him. Claude says, “I have been noticing you and just wanted to say, the last thing in the world you are is a genius.”

What would you do?  “Tell him to get lost”. Right.  That makes sense.  What a ‘Claude’.  But just for fun, what options would you have in that situation?  “Well I’m certainly not going to talk to him.”  Agreed, that makes total sense.  But let’s just list out the options….Discussion leads to,  1)  You could talk to him.  2)  You could ask the manager to kick him out of the bar. 3) Ignore him and hope he goes away. 4) Throw a drink on him.   I then raised, well tell me if I’m wrong but it sounds to me like you didn’t do any of those things.  It sounds like you went and sat down with him asked him if you could wear his school ring around your neck.  “Huh?”  Yes I mean here we were talking about something I thought was ingenius and you told me the last thing you were was a genius, sounds like you are buying into Claude pretty intensely.

In my session it did not result in a committed action step but it could be pursued, e.g.  How do you want to respond to Claude next time he comes at you with that line.